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A trip to a winter market, what could go wrong?

We were looking for a way to recalibrate, to energize ourselves. Both a little tired and run down, Keith and Laura decide to focus on the most recent family weekend. 

Laura loves to recharge through creative work and travel. Keith balances the feeling of not doing enough with making time for creative projects and relaxation.

Some topics were easy to talk about.
Laura doesn’t like to sit still and has several projects to check off her list. She leans into making holiday treats and festive crafts. Keith is reminded that he is a maker and acknowledges the need to plan, prioritize, and simply use his time effectively. 

Some topics were more difficult.
While Keith’s practicality and sense of obligation can create overwhelm and distract from his practice and creativity, this time around, it threatens the whimsy and sense of play Laura craves while they explore.

We end up talking about partnerships. Is there a shift where someone is not only your partner, they’re your confidant, they’re your friend, they’re your coach, they’re your everything? It can be a lot to feel pressure to be everything, everywhere for someone. Laura says she get’s it, but Keith is skeptically optimistic.

Thanks for joining us!

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▾ Here are select works and resources we enjoy and find helpful ▾

●  Elizabeth Zharoff,  @TheCharismaticVoice on YouTube or https://thecharismaticvoice.com 🎧 📺

● From Jad Abumrad and Shima Oliaee, Dolly Parton’s America 🎧

● Marc Spagnuolo,  @woodwhisperer on YouTube or https://thewoodwhisperer.com 🎧 📺 🪵

● Klaus, Netflix Film

● Check out Shoresy on Hulu🏒

●  Fusebox the podcast hosting and player we use. Check it out! 💻

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Communication and Expectation –  Episode 15 
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Welcome to In Residence with Keith and Laura. We are creatives and makers at heart, seeking to make change, create culture and build relationships for ourselves and people like us who choose to show up and dig a little deeper. 

Join us as we grow in our partnership and as individuals.
We connect ideas through conversation In Residence.

In today’s episode, we talk about goal achievement and how gamifying may or may not help us work through and achieve our goals. 

Thinking about games brought up finite and infinite games. Knowing which is which and what kind of game you’re playing matters. We also bring up several of our favorite games. 😀

Laura gets stuff done. She looks to gamify her training for her 5K, 10K, and 13 mile runs as she embraces her long term goal of simply being a runner that continues to show up and invest in her practice. 

Keith leans into efficiency and precision when completing chores and tasks. But, will that translate while working toward long term goals? He’s looking to tap into and harness his competitive, playful side to make strides now.

Thanks for joining us!

What Game Are You Playing? –  Episode 14 

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▾ Here are select works and resources we enjoy and find helpful ▾

● Shop Local when you can 🛍️🤗

● Jon Acuff, All It Takes Is a Goal: The 3-Step Plan to Ditch Regret and Tap into Your Massive Potential – 🎧 📗

● Simon Sinek, The Infinite Game – 🎧 📘

● James Carse, Finite and Infinite Games – 🎧 📙

● runDisney Virtual Series – 🏃🏻‍♀️

● Catan Base Game (formerly The Settlers of Catan –  🪵🪨🌾🐑🧱

● Clue Board Game -♟️🎲

● Old Dads on Netflix – 🍿

● Owen McGrann, Sonder Union – 🎧

● Flea, This Little Light – 🎧

●  Fusebox the podcast hosting and player we use. Check it out! 💻

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Welcome to In Residence with Keith and Laura. We are creatives and makers at heart, seeking to make change, create culture and build relationships for ourselves and people like us who choose to show up and dig a little deeper. 

Join us as we grow in our partnership and as individuals.

We connect ideas through conversation In Residence.

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Welcome back to In Residence with Keith and Laura. We are creatives and makers at heart, seeking to make change, create culture and build relationships for ourselves and people like us who choose to show up and dig a little deeper. Join us as we grow in our partnership and as individuals.

In this episode, we dig into the stuck feeling surrounding Laura’s project.

How to make progress when there are all the excuses in the world as to why I’m not making progress?

Trying to get started, keep momentum going, trying to silence the voices of criticism either self-generated or external, Laura wants to move forward with her project. And at the same time, there is a voice saying, “Sit down, not so fast. I’m too busy. I don’t have time. I got plenty going on.” How do you know now is the time to make a ruckus? Or, how do you know now is the time to wait and prepare for the ruckus to be made?

“I can get a lot done, but I’m stuck. I want to make a ruckus. But, I feel like I’m making it too precious. And there’s a part of me that says small, small progress isn’t enough, that that’s not a ruckus. That it isn’t big enough to make the change you want to make. And at the same time, I know that’s crap.”

The things we say we want to be doing. It’s time to stop saying I’m going to do them and start to do them. Making room in the schedule to do these things. Push outside comfort zones to do more than what’s currently happening.

When you start something new, it may not be easy. If you’re going to do what you are seeking to do, the change that you are looking to make, it’s pretty magical. So, why wouldn’t it be hard?

“I know right now you don’t want to do this, because you don’t think it’s enough, but you’re going to do it anyway.”

Thanks for joining us! Go Make a Ruckus.

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▾ Here are select works and resources we enjoy and find helpful ▾

● Coaching Real Leaders with Muriel Wilkins – 🎧

● Jon Acuff, All It Takes Is a Goal: The 3-Step Plan to Ditch Regret and Tap into Your Massive Potential – 📗

● Marie Forleo, Everything Is Figureoutable – 📘

● Steven Pressfield, The War of Art – 📕

● Seth Godin, Poke the Box – 📙

● Check out Shoresy on Hulu 🏒

● Watch a Hallmark Movie 🎄

● Don’t forget to puzzle 🧩 or LEGO 😃

●  Fusebox the podcast hosting and player we use. Check it out! 💻

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Make a Ruckus: Stop the Excuses and Do It Anyway – Episode 13

Laura thought we were going to have a festive holiday episode about gratitude journaling. Things went a little astray as it became clear there was some discomfort and stressors getting in the way of this seemingly simple Thanksgiving topic. 

We dig in to see what resistance is getting in the way of Laura’s gratitude journaling. Keith realizes that Laura is feeling a lot of pressure to get gratitude right. If nothing else, she is overthinking it. Can we make it simple and let go of it needing to be perfect? 

Stick around for Laura’s top 5 tips for dealing with stress and techniques to bring your focus back and be more present. We think these can be powerful for both personal and professional environments. 

We also had a Parent’s Night Out! We are both grateful for that. 

Thanks for joining us! 

▾ Here are select works and resources we enjoy and find helpful ▾

Jon Acuff, All It Takes Is a Goal: The 3-Step Plan to Ditch Regret and Tap into Your Massive Potential

Shirzad Chamine, Positive Intelligence: Why Only 20% of Teams and Individuals Achieve Their True Potential AND HOW YOU CAN ACHIEVE YOURS

www.positiveintelligence.com

Brené Brown, Why Your Critics Aren’t The Ones Who Count 

Annie Kagan, The Afterlife of Billy Fingers: How My Bad-Boy Brother Proved to Me There’s Life After Death

Don’t forget to get your puzzle on!

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PODCASTS to check out:

How Did This Get Made?

The Tobolowsky Files

Gratitude and Stress –  Episode 12 

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We had a Family Movie Night. There was popcorn, treats, mic drops and a few tears. But first, we discuss Parents Night Out! 🎉 The first intentional live music Keith and Laura experienced in four years. There will be more PNO to come.

In the heart of this episode, we dig into what resonated with each other and our reactions to the Barbie movie. Laura says it best, “I think it was also about life, it was about leadership and it was about showing up in the world as you and trying to navigate your way as your true self.”

Barbie highlights historical inequities and our current situation through contrasting typical gender roles and shifting perspectives. Our identities and experiences inform how we move through the world. No doubt, we need systemic changes to serve and support more people. As we work toward more equality and equity, we share how we interpret the signals we receive along our paths and how we think our weirdness is going to give us the advantage in making a change.

Thanks for joining us, watch out for deer.

Spoiler Alert: Family Movie Night – Episode 11

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▾ Here are select works and resources we enjoy and find helpful ▾

● Barbie (movie 2023)

● LP, Love Lines

● Avivah Wittenberg-Cox, 6 Leadership Lessons From Barbie – Don’t Over-Pink It

● Michael Bungay Stanier, How to Begin: Start Doing Something That Matters

● Megan Devine, It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t Understand

● Taylor Tomlinson, Whatever she’s up to just go find it.

● Fusebox the podcast hosting and player we use. Check it out!

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Is our marriage more like a Start-Up or a Merger?  

We talk about Arthur C. Brooks’ article from The Atlantic, “Why the Most Successful Marriages Are Start-Ups, Not Mergers.” It was a quick read that left us with much to talk about. Listen in to how we operate in our marriage as we ponder if we are a Start-up or a Merger. 

There are, and have been, shifting dynamics within our partnership as we’ve grow as individuals and as partners. As we keep moving forward together on this journey, we know our foundation is based on communication and empathy. What works for us? What works for you? 

Laura wants to go on more date nights and they both wonder if Keith is on the verge of a midlife crisis!? 🏎️ 🤨 

It’s always good to check in and see what is and isn’t working.

Thanks for joining us.

Marriage, Support and Communication: A Start-Up Story –  Episode 10 

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▾ Here are select works and resources we enjoy and find helpful ▾

Arthur C. Brooks 
▸ Why the Most Successful Marriages Are Start-Ups, Not Mergers  
Apple News  OR  The Atlantic

▸  From Strength to Strength: Finding Success, Happiness, and Deep Purpose in the Second Half of Life

Elizabeth Gilbert  
▸  Eat, Pray, Love: One Woman’s Search for Everything Across Italy, India, and Indonesia

Jon Acuff  
▸  All It Takes Is a Goal: The 3-Step Plan to Ditch Regret and Tap into Your Massive Potential

▸  Finish: Give Yourself the Gift of Done 

▸  Soundtracks: The Surprising Solution to Overthinking

Alisa Cohn  
▸  From Start-Up to Grown-Up: Grow Your Leadership to Grow Your Business

●  Super Pumped: The Battle for Uber – a great series to check out.

David Grann  
▸  Killers of the Flower Moon: The Osage Murders and the Birth of the FBI

Fusebox the podcast hosting and player we use. Check it out! 

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Let’s do another Mixed Tape Session. We show up and see what each other has been up to and what’s resonating with us as we transition towards winter.

Laura finished her gardening for the year and Keith was a guest on Owen McGrann’s Sonder Union podcast. Owen is a thoughtful conversationalist and host with intriguing guests. You’ll wish you were sitting between them and joining in the conversation. Check out all Sonder Union episodes on Apple or Spotify.

In today’s episode, we cover morning routines, what we are listening to and reading, traditions we’re excited about as the seasons change, and Keith circle talks a little around ideas ruminating in his head, and Laura’s looking forward to a new project.

Quote Cards:

“The future turns out to be something that you make instead of find.” – Lewis Lapham

“There is more to life than increasing its speed.” – Mahatma Gandhi

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Here are a few quick links to works or resources we enjoy and find helpful:

● Brian Koppelman, The Moment with Brian Koppelman – APPLE or SPOTIFY

● Owen McGrann, Sonder Union with Owen McGrann – APPLE or SPOTIFY

● Michael Bungay Stanier, How to Begin: Start Doing Something That Matters

● Jon Acuff, All It Takes Is a Goal: The 3-Step Plan to Ditch Regret and Tap into Your Massive Potential

●  @MichaelFranti  – Turn it UP!

● Seth Godin, The Song of Significance: A New Manifesto for Teams

● Fusebox the podcast hosting and player we use. Check it out

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A Mixed Tape Session 2 Episode 9

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What did you want to be when you grew up? Are you doing that? Or like us, did your path have a few more twists and turns? Our journey down the path isn’t always consistent and so straight forward.

Keith and Laura find some common threads that still connect them to their younger selves and the drive and passion that made them want to connect and learn in their teenage years.

Do the same things still resonate with you? Did you find a way to incorporate them into your daily practice, into what you do in your spare time, or into projects that you’re pursuing?

Here are a few quick links to select works we enjoy and find helpful.

● Kim Scott, Radical Candor: Fully Revised & Updated Edition: Be a Kick-Ass Boss Without Losing Your Humanity

● Daniel H. Pink, The Power of Regret: How Looking Backward Moves Us Forward

● Michael Bungay Stanier, How to Begin: Start Doing Something That Matters

● Mel Robbins, Take Control of Your Life: How to Silence Fear and Win the Mental Game

● Gary Vaynerchuk, Twelve and a Half: Leveraging the Emotional Ingredients Necessary for Business Success

● Seth Godin, The Song of Significance: A New Manifesto for Teams

● Fusebox the podcast hosting and player we use. Check it out!

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Passion, Purpose, Practical – What Did You Want to Be? Episode 8 All the Links: https://linktr.ee/makecreatebuild

We’ve started, we’ve failed, and we keep moving forward. Let’s keep our momentum going with work that matters. Speaking of work that matters, we are talking about Seth Godin’s book, Poke the Box.

Over the week, we read (or reread) Poke the Box. And, now it’s time for us to do what we do; talk about it and see what resonates with each other. We even mention a few other books that we’ve been enjoying by Mel Robbins, Alisa Cohn, Michael Bungay Stanier, and I’m sure Keith mentions The Practice by Seth Godin.

Let’s shines a light on the Lizard Brain. It’s time to commit to making a difference and decide what matters. Become an initiator. Start. Go. Do.

Don’t forget to send us any recommendations of your favorite reads or listens. And, if you have any suggestions for Laura as she leans into her writing, let us know.

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Here are a few quick links to select works we enjoy and find helpful.

● Seth Godin, Poke the Box

● Alisa Cohn, From Start-Up to Grown-Up: Grow Your Leadership to Grow Your Business

● Michael Bungay Stanier, How to Begin: Start Doing Something That Matters

● Mel Robbins, Take Control of Your Life: How to Silence Fear and Win the Mental Game

● Seth Godin, The Practice: Shipping Creative Work

● Seth Godin, The Song of Significance: A New Manifesto for Teams

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We talk through imposter syndrome. The pitfalls and how we push past them.  “I don’t feel good enough,” or “who am I to . . .”  We address how it feels and how we push through to keep taking steps on our journey. 

I may not feel qualified to do this “thing,” but what I do know is I’m going to learn as I go through this, and I’m committed to myself to not just learn, but to hold myself accountable, to continue to improve and hone my craft.

Pushing Through Imposter Syndrome Episode 6

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